Unrelated to any sort of sickness, but I loathe the taste of chicken and always have. You can have the honey-glazed salmon on a cedar plank. Ive eaten Moes only once since that year. I get extremely annoyed when my husband tells me to blow my nose. it gives meme headaches and I carnt enjoy myself. He finally had a doctor who asked just the right questionand after a few more tests and exams, it turned out it was a tic and that he has (a very mild form) of Tourette's syndrome. That's the end of it? :/ And yeah, patchouli, being one of my favourites, definitely is one of the more intense and stronger scents that helps beat down the ammonia smell of cat wee, thats for sure. I was offering it up as a suggestions just because if it were me Id be curious. Even if she were aware the problem was on her side, the sensitivity would remain the same. There was a time when I burned incense almost daily and I loved the smell in my house, but it never occurred to me the degree it was sticking to my clothes and how much you could smell it on me when I was at work etc. For those who like it and for whom it is normal it is fine. Of course, Im lukewarm on bacon and despise people drowning all other flavours by adding it to everything, and meh about cheese too so I appreciate your feelings. This. It doesnt help with co-worker, but since what co-worker is doing can be utterly crazy making and gaslighting feeling, I hope it helps you see how it could be just her. Give the interrupter . Thoughts?. She pounced on that and tried to make it seem like using soap was somehow inconsiderate. {Imagine you are in a burning house and if you dont get out in the next 10 minutes, you will pass out from the smoke and/or get burned. Here's how to tell if one or more of your coworkers are toxic: 1. Dont spray too much if you do go looking for it! Regardless, the AGAIN? The office could have other environmental factors that are actually causing coworkers issues- like dirt in carpets or something. I think considerate coworkers like you should do what they can to help out other coworkers, but at the same time, you shouldnt have to give up something you enjoy using in your free time because of a work conflict. You've just arrived back at the office from a heavy lunch with your colleague, and from the other side of the cubicle, you hear him let out a loud, obnoxious burp. This accomplishes TWO things. Heh, I actually really hate the smell of Febreeze myself. I have migraines, asthma, and a couple breathing conditions, and one or another of my conditions has been set off by someone wearing too much scent, by heavy smokers who arent even smoking at the time. The coworkers rudeness is the problem. Note to commenters:There have been loads of suggestions below for additional ways the letter-writer could tackle potential scents and stamp them out. Yes. I was just wondering how common it is to possibly swallow a About 4 weeks ago, I developed symptoms that resembled bronchitis or some form of viral infection. He serves as the Studio's sports and recreation section expert. My mom had the same experience with TCBY yogurt. My coworker is constantly coughing and blowing her nose My coworker who I share an office with has been sick for the past month and a half. I didnt know that about the ice cream thing! I though he had peed on everything. The common cold is a viral infection that most people recover from in a week to 10. :) All in all, its just frustrating when youve done everything to accommodate someone and they are still abrasive. Its one thing to stop wearing scents. Getting a scent out of a car seat isnt exactly an easy venture. It would be awful to hear that you smell everyday. And you cant tell me that people who do have legitimate issues with scents dont routinely encounter scents that bother them. I had a coworker who happened to have her desk right below one of the (old) building's AC vents, and she would sniffle / cough at least several times every single hour. Get queasy even smelling it/seeing the bottle. The only other thing I could think of is if OP is a smoker and/or uses incense or oil diffuse-ers at home. Dr. Shane Russell-Jenkins answered. I lost a week of my life once because my husband used one of their plug ins. I feel like this thread could be about my brother once he gets an office job. Yeah. Out of curiosity, does the sound of a nose being blown bother anyone here? Therefore, I only bring it up to people if I cant avoid the person and just deal with it because I feel that I shouldnt dictate how others live their own lives. BINGO. All Rights Reserved. Im bringing this angle up because your coworker was wearing it after a weekend and doesnt seem to wear it every day. My coworker sniffles ALL DAY LONG. Is your manager willing to get the company to pay for your shoes and chair to be professionally (and secentlessly) laundered? Your team's target will be based on both expansion and retention goals. I couldnt smell any cinnamon candy for years after. Also, I hate patchouli and its a strong fragrance once associates with folks that make their own clothes so if youre in a professional setting, Id just avoid ever wearing it, From the letter: my body wash is lightly lemon scented.. I had a similar problem with Oreos, which was really sad because I love Oreos. But to negatively comment about any group is . I was going to say this. He probably has a sick crush on you. Theres nothing wrong with OP coworker is being a jerk. The best way to drown somebody out without breaking your eardrums or losing your concentration is to use some white noise. Ive never had anyone else mention my scent unless I specifically ask, and even then its usually so faint that they have to sniff the crook of my elbow or whatever to smell it. When used often enough, this technique can make your colleague think twice about the . If you have a colleague who burps or sniffs excessively, the easiest approach is to tell her you find it offensive or unsanitary and, in the case of loud burping, do not consider it humorous. I also think that the manager needs to be a little more forceful with the coworker about the comments- tell the coworker to knock it off. I was thinking about this, too, but I havent gotten any promotion, raise or recognition since we started working on this project. On a particularly strong scent day a few months ago, I mentioned this to her, and she seemed quite responsive and apologetic. (Especially since you cant actually smell it unless you are sniffing my head, and no one at work has any business sniffing my head. The employee still kept reporting to HR that I was spritzing perfume in my cubicle and even alleged that I was purposely spritzing her cube while she was away. Do not reply with anger just because the customer is being immature and working through their anger in an unhealthy way. Sinus infections famously cause your head to pound and your eyes to throb. But unless were also banning Axe body spray or Febreze from the public sphere (if only), people get to wear whatever scent they like in public even if it annoys some other people. Fine. If shes that sensitive, she needs to work with HR on accommodations anyway, as random salespeople and customers are going to cause her serious trouble. Like those toilet sprays for example. There is something wrong with this. Oh gosh, nothing makes you paranoid like cat pee. I much prefer that someone blows their nose. If your coworker has Aspergers or some kind of sensory processing disorder, they could go through a doctor to have HR find them accommodations away from other people. They had everyone take their shoes off and the participation of women increased dramatically. If not, there you are. Colloquially, anything scented you use for the scent (and not to wash, etc) is commonly referred to as perfume. Find out which foods you should watch out for. I dont have a huge wardrobe, so most if not all of my office-appropriate clothes have been washed since then, so Im pretty sure that there are no lingering traces hanging on. Download Article. OP: Your coworker is a jerk. He's had been a cocaine user. Ah, I see you already made my point about how other people might have conflicting allergies. I choked on my lunch at little cloud of toxic masculinity. My husband bought some Axe bodywash once because hes oblivious and I had to tell him to replace it because that stuff was rank. Shes being a jerk. It's not so easy no matter where you work. I try to buy products that are unscented or are minimally scented, but sometimes Im surprised at how strong the fragrance is in some products. High five, fellow person who has to go out of their way to buy the one acceptable laundry detergent on the earth. Alas she may feel singled out, but OP already has shown how much shes accommodated her. Why is your nose constantly running? But it is of course very possible that this is just a drama queen who likes to make a fuss and I agree the OP should be more aggressive about it and not let the boss take the easy way out of only responding to the squeaky wheel. Re: Constant phlegm / snorting problem - please help. It was actually a specific experiment testing chemotherapy-related food aversions. Ask them not to wear perfume to work? This may have already been mentioned, but the co-worker said the scent was bothering her. Bothering her as in I dont like that scent or bothering her as in I get debilitating migraines and cannot work due to that scent? There is a big difference. I do keep it open when not in use, but it gets gross anyway. You are kind co-worker. If you have a sniffling toddler, youll definitely want to check that a blueberry or a bead didnt magically make its way up a nostril. If she says the smell is on your scarf, but you have a new scarf, then Id get a second opinion. I get mild to moderate headaches.. it sucks but theyre survivable. OP has done put in a ton of effort to alleviate the smell. But doesnt hurt to try, and Alison and others offer great suggestions. My guess from your other comments is that the particular scent of patchouli bothers her and that its lingering somewhere like your hair, your car, something. I would switch laundry detergent, perfume, etc. I had to go see the ombudsman and talk to HR, but nothing helped. Is she hassling the other people in your office? I have had to give away clothes I bought on eBay before that were so saturated with perfume that I could not wash it out, even with multiple washings and with leaving the garment hanging outside in the fresh air a long time. I hate it having hose nose because of miso I fully understand others hating sniffling but hose nose leaves me no choice. I guess people who are sensitive to it can smell it long after use. It didnt occur to me because we do work closely on my project, but I guess theres no reason that necessarily has to be physical closeness. Still I'm on the fence as to what is more annoying - blowing the snot or sucking the snot. As part of following AAMs #3 advice, you should ask your boss to help you figure out if you still have a scent issue. Find out if your city is a top "allergy capital.". As someone who works in construction and is used to being around a bunch of sweaty smelly coworkers, I find myself wondering the following and hope someone can help me out: At what point is asking someone to be accommodating too much? Hey, thanks for reporting in, and it sounds like things are better! My massage therapist uses a really nice patchouli blend oil (its the ONLY form of patchouli I like lol) and I can STILL smell it on my clothes I have washed several times since my last massage. Yes!! If its patchouli in particular that your co-worker is commenting on, is there ANYTHING patchouli-scented in your house or your car that might be getting picked up by your clothes? I didnt wear any scent, but switched to unscented everything to be polite and actually reported the change to HR and my manager. Im 35 years old. It's driving me crazy trying to get to sleep and I'm beginning to think it's more of ahabitual thing rather than medical. Ask your manager to move your desk if the faint scent of a lotion used the night before bothers you that much. Fab. if you have to entirely eradicate any scent you may have and completely alter your lifestyle in your own home and on your own time to accommodate someone else thats pretty unreasonable. I would imagine it must smell much different to those that like patchouli because I would never call the scent I smell pleasant. Anything with any kind of fragrance? Oh, like I can use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer and I can use neutragena sensitive skin sunscreen, but if I use neutragena sensitive skin moisturizer with sunscreen, I break out in a horrible painful rash. We disclaim all responsibility for the professional qualifications and licensing of, and services provided by, any physician or other health providers posting on or otherwise referred to on this Site and/or any Third Party Site. If you have to be within my personal bubble of space to even smell my body wash then there is a bigger issue then how I smell, and can be easily fixed by staying a respectable distance from me. That said, I do have scented shampoo because there are like 3 on the market that are unscented, most of which I cant afford. i think many of the suggestions here are verging on unreasonable. Maybe ask another coworker or friend if she can smell it. It became a campus-wide thing. Curiously enough, the first symptom I get is irritability. Plus, it may turn out that many of OPs scent-sensitive strategies are unnecessary, and that they can indeed wear some scented products. I think we can all agree that the best outcome would be for OP to shave her head, live in a sterilization chamber, and wear a new sterile smock every day. Cant remember what it was, maybe its something I still wear and have just gotten used to it. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. OK? Should I just ask to move elsewhere on the floor? Your nose is a faucet, and theres no way to turn it off. I happen to like scents like patchouli, but it is a strong scent, so perhaps its lingering someplace. Wash and dry clean any clothing that you wear thats kept in your office. Time for bending over backwards is past here. Doesnt matter, its never clear and I cant stop sniffling. Id be willing to use a different scent on works days if one really bothered someone, but not to give it up completely. I would not send her to HR, they are likely to be the dingbats that will turn it back on you. For me, my comments were about where the smell could still be coming from, since OP seems baffled that they could be smelling like anything after all theyve done to eliminate smells from their person. Im quite certain that nobody else around her is making this much of an effort to be scent-free. And if the coworker isnt asking every single person in the office to eliminate scents of all types, it seems clear to me that this is less of a fragrance issue and more of a my coworker is a jerk issue. I didnt know the immune system could even distinguish between synthetic and natural molecules, but it sounds fascinating. shut. It's driving me crazy at times. (Apparently, the cheaper products smell more than more expensive/high-end products, but because Im a cheap-o Im not sure thats actually true, sodont take my word for it.). Youve really gone out of your way to accommodate her, and she truly cant expect (or reasonably ask) for more. Hold a constructive private conversation. BTW, I always carry surgical masks and charcoal filters with me. Handling 'Gross' Things Can Be Tricky for HR Advice for HR professionals. Also, what if someone cant change products due to an allergy? If I were OP, Id be tempted to say, Patchouli? This is a coworker/management problem, not an OP needs to take special tablets and buy a new bedspread problem. Same with strawberry shortcake and popcorn. Most people are more than willing to do reasonable things for their coworkers comfort, but it sounds like the OPs coworker is the type thats totally unreasonable. Why dont men want to be with me? and I wanted to scream at her you want to know why no one wants to date you? But it can also be something in the building, in the carpet, or any other thing. But it really, truly is an instant, intense fight-or-flight feeling and knowing its irrational doesnt make that kind of heart-pounding, blinding adrenaline go away. I have to agree. Sniffing is one of my triggers to, whenever I her even one small sniff I get a huge panic attack. Your tissue box might get a little lonely, The funny thing is my mom uses patchouli, so I associate that particular scent with mom-ly ladies. Its not ultra cheap, but is around $10 for 32 oz. * Diets heavy in certain foods like onions and garlic (yum) may give strong body scents. thanks! It was only when I went on vacation with friends and that was the only whiskey sold at the bodega near where we were staying that I managed to drink it again. Boss talked to her, and she insisted she hadnt sprayed anything.but I had 2 witnesses who said she did. The readers have some great ideas. We do not endorse non-Cleveland Clinic products or services. Not only that, but it can also be a sign that your female coworker likes you but is hiding it. Thank goodness for this opinion. Helpful - 0 Comment jms67 Jerk. The specific patchouli comment is was does it for me. The longer we are exposed, the more affected and sensitive we are. I am on a small anti-anxiety med now and it has made a difference. Makes me smell like an old shoe. The jerkness indicator that leaps out at me is that she is still fixated on patchouli, which is a pretty distinctive smell. It really is a nightmare and it has caused a host of anxiety problems for me in addition to the physical one because of the aggressive hostility I have received as a result of approaching people about their scents. The Content on this Site is presented in a summary fashion, and is intended to be used for educational and entertainment purposes only. She had her unit say it was me. However, I draw the line at cheap room fragrance oil diffuser things for some reason, those set off my migraines. Colleagues If you have a colleague who burps or sniffs excessively, the easiest approach is to tell her you find it offensive or unsanitary and, in the case of loud burping, do not consider it humorous. I think that it might be another coworker or it could be the scent from a product used to clean the office. Yeah, youre not alone in wondering this. Sometimes I notice smells will stick around for a few days, even after I have showered. If most people cant smell whatever your current perfume load is, then its not your problem if one person is bothered. Im worried that there might be an underlying medical issue. And then walk away. Huh. I once did a volunteer gig in a bingo hall this was before tobacco regulations were tightened in public locations and afterwards I could smell the smoke until I washed my sneakers, my purse (fabric, luckily), and my coat and scarf. Note that the issue is addressed in a business by in this case, the sniffer's manager, to the sniffer. I want to clarify that my But I agree that patchouli is one.of.those.smells. line meant that most will either love it or hate it as evidenced by our two opinions here. The only scent mnemonics that lemon ever hits for me are dish soap and hard candies! Blah, blah, blah. I have been through a lot of different A friend of mine. If she had a genuine allergy, would she not also be having a genuine allergic reaction? The coworker is *totally* acting like a jerk. Its not workable. Natural stuff and the high end perfumes dont seem to cause the same reactions, unless Im already in the middle of a reaction chain. Instead they want to continue chatting or working. A hot bath, with scented salts and a glass wine after work sounds awful good to me right now. 100% this. Same here. You have a right to wash yourself in lightly (or heavily for that matter) scented things. When he started doing it I did ask him to go and blow his nose and he said why . Does anyone have answer. My point is that maybe something similar is happening with OPs coworker and smells. Maybe others are more accommodating, but I personally would do what I think is reasonable under the circumstances, and then after that its kind of her problem, not one that I can control for. 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